I’ve known my SP for 5 years. Somewhere in the middle, I learned about conscious manifesting. After three years of Law of Attraction, Law of Assumption, fighting with my SP, reacting to the 3D every 2 minutes, watching countless Youtube videos, belonging to different Facebook groups and subreddits, spending thousands on manifestation coaching- the penny finally dropped. No matter how many times I affirmed that I am the God of my reality, I still viewed my SP as someone outside and separate from me.
I’m not going to dabble too much into my old story but it was a warzone. For years, I was in an endless cycle with my SP. Then I found out about affirmations in 2020. I thought by affirming, I was changing someone outside of me. When in actual fact, it was ME who was changing. By affirming, I was shifting my perspective of him and our situation. I’ve come to realise that he and I are ONE. The moment my internal dialogue changed about him and with him, the 3D avatar of him also began changing. Here’s where I had a mini pitfall, every time he would show up as my desired version, I had the subtle assumption he would revert back to the old version. However, he is just an extension of ME. He is not responsible for the way he shows up, I am. He responds perfectly to the assumptions and stories I have about him, our situation, and myself. Could I blame him? No. For years, I did though. Once you realise that you and your SP are ONE, not only will the issue of time fall away but any anxieties you have will dissipate too.
Likewise, with “other” people in my reality. It took me a while to fully comprehend that there are no other people. They are all projections of what I have going on inside of me. A clear example would be my mother. She was perfectly responding to my assumption “I am not good enough”. As a result, she would constantly compare me to other people my age, or nothing I do would be to her liking or she would complain that I am not doing “enough”. Before doing something, I would already anticipate “She’s going to find fault in (insert situation). Gosh, nothing I do is good enough”. It wasn’t until I looked at what it was that I was feeling, that I was able to pinpoint what the thought or affirmation was that was projecting it. Once I started changing my opinion about myself and the inner conversations I was having with my mother, my mother’s attitude towards me started changing. She now constantly compliments me, tells me how proud she is of me, how she thinks I am the best, etc. (I affirmed: I am more than good enough. I am the best). The same goes for an SP, it always boils down to self-concept. I was chasing and allowing myself to be a doormat because I wanted to feel wanted. I was too afraid that I would be abandoned. I then realised that there is no point just affirming for a stable relationship when I am afraid that he will leave. Yes, I would get the relationship but then he would just leave because he needs to fulfill my assumptions about myself. This is why self-concept is integral. This is why Neville stresses “there is no one to change but Self” because it is you and only you projecting your reality. If you don’t change your concept of Self, you’ll find yourself in the same situations with different people or attracting the same type of people in your life.
Now when I look at people, I look at them with love and compassion since we are one. They are just me. They show me exactly what I have going on inside of me. I am the one projecting stories onto them and they happily play their part. If there is something I don’t like about someone, I go within and find the reason behind it. If I find myself feeling jealous, judging, or criticizing “others”, I look at myself first because everyone is ME pushed out. There is absolutely no one to “fix”- only my perspective of them and myself.
